2 posts tagged “moving”

i thought about the seasons today as i recall the invitation from ben and gary to see Juno with them last night.  how events and periods of the film are split into seasons.  it was only the other day when the heavy winds and strong rays of sun were drenching our vacationed bodies in ventotene.  then the coldness of the winter and being separated from boBo in parma and san diego.  followed now by a spring that has been schizophrenic yet blossoming into another eagerly anticipated warm spell.

and with this pleasantness around me, it is time for me to bid adieu.  not that i necessarily want to leave boBo, but larger plans are in store for us now and it only seems how the natural movement of events should proceed.  the apartment, as pleasant as it has been, will no longer be ours as of the 15th.  my position, again despite being a terrific experience, is gone for the time being.  but most importantly, i need to give boBo some time alone in order for him to complete his thesis.  something that i believe he will accomplish with much more exactitude once i am out from under his feet, so to speak.

i'm not going to wonder about the future and all the expectations that are in store for both of us together as well as apart.  i can only focus on the next word that i am deliberating to type on this text.  for now, that is all i can do.

after a lot of talk and contemplation, boBo and i have decided to get married.  or form a civil union, depending on where you happen to find yourself.  we began to deliberate on the idea over a year ago but it was not until budapest when we began to give it serious contemplation.  the deal is this: i cannot continue to be in the situation i am in right now: not exactly legal.  i have been for some parts, but for others: no.  many hopes have been placed on the chance to obtain a work visa of some sort...but to no successful avail.  but then again, i don't want to leave boBo.

boBo, on the other hand, would be the same as me if we were to go back to the united states on some relatively permanent situation.  and since neither country widely accepts gay unions then we have decided to seek other measures in order to be together without looking behind our backs or under the tables, so to speak.

 

all this to say that soon - although the dates are uncertain at this time - we are going to make an attempt at moving to london and form a civil union together.

with that in mind, i am heading back to san diego for a spell, probably for the summer in order to get my head around this new development.  we are wanting to take it very seriously and there is much thought and preparation that will go into it.

 

it's strange.  the thought of leaving italy.  it's like i just arrived.  which i did in some respects.  but it will always be here.  but so will everything else.